Valentinr and why I'm not participating this year.

[apocalypticbob]

I've done the Valentinr things for a few years now, but I'm not participating this year. I really don't think I could handle opening it up on Valentine's Day and reading a handful of anonymous notes from people telling me they like me. I'm pretty sure that would break me this year. Valentine's Day is going to be tough enough this year...it's always a pretty shitty day for me, with few exceptions, and this year I'm going to be at a wedding. Now, I'm excited to go to that wedding, so incredibly excited, and I won't be weeping in the corner at it or anything, except tears of joy for the lovely bride, but it is still going to be a bold underscore of all the things I don't have and may never have.

I will put up a post on Valentine's Day, if you'd like to leave non-anonymous, screened love notes, but I truly can't handle any secret admirers right now. I would lose my cool.

I'm not signing any of the Valentinr things this year, either, but if you also put up a post on Valentine's Day where people may leave screened, non-anonymous love notes, I'll be glad to tell you why I am happy you are in my life. I think valentines_09 is an incredibly neat community, too, but if you choose to utilize it, please don't leave me anonymous notes...it will only make me tear my hair out in frustration.

Love you all.

AmberBob

Comments

[joegoda.livejournal.com]

Ditto, little one. I'm lucky enough to be working that day, so it will be just another day for me. I'll be posting to you, because I can't be anonymous and because I not only like you, but I love you very much.

[ladyniniane.livejournal.com]

I agree with this post.

And your suggestion about making a Valentine's Day screened post is one that I had already begun to mull over. While I think the Valentinr thing is ok for some people, it smacks far too much of the whole 'competing for the most cards' thing which I still see in every school classroom despite all attempts to head it off. There are few things in life that I can say this about, but I *despise* school Valentine parties and everything that goes with them.

And, right at this moment in time, I don't need to be dealing with anything like this at all. About to post...

[fairgoldberry.livejournal.com]

I'm in a different space, I think. In past years, I haven't put one up, though I've left (signed) anonymous comments on other people's. I sign them because I'd rather not be a secret admirer most of the time, but I didn't ever get one because I don't really dig anonymous 'I love you' either. This year, I got one because I wanted them to be identifiable as me without having to say "(this is Rowan)" in the message.

I also got one for some private reasons that will likely go in a covered post around V-Day.

This year, a good friend of mine asked for my help at an out-of-town SCA event, and she and I are taking a road trip Valentine's Day weekend. This, to me, is a lifesaving thing she has done, because just thinking about being in town for Valentine's right now makes me just about cry.

If I don't post to your screened-comment entry on V-Day, it's because I'm on the road, not because I don't love you. Just so you know.

Much love,
Rowan

[wifeofset.livejournal.com]

I'd like to subscribe to your newsletter and hear more of your stories. Because this? This is sort of where I am.

If you want to say "hey I think you're nifty" say it and let me KNOW, anonymous admirers just bug the snot out of me

[rougewench.livejournal.com]

but it is still going to be a bold underscore of all the things I don't have and may never have.

There was a time in her life not so very long ago, that the particular bride believed the same thing about her life.

The largest reason I despise what Valentine's Day has become is how you feel right here. It is a means by which people get to feel like crap about their lives based on whether or not they are pair bonded, at the point the holiday comes around.

Amber, you are a wonderful human, as deserving of peace and bliss in this life as any other human. It is my sincere belief that when your life is in a place that is it meet (i.e. you have a life in which you can do the things you like to do, are doing something you enjoy for a living, and very hopefully are not doing life in the tiny place that is where you currently live) that you will come across a proper companion.


D.

[docjeff.livejournal.com]

There are days when I find myself wanting to touch you in a way that transcends the mere physical plane.

[rowangolightly.livejournal.com]

Even though I'm in a completely different circumstance, I'm not going to do the Valentinr thing either. I also don't like anonymous admiration; dammit, if you like me or love me, come on out and SAY so. Communication seems the be the major snafu of the moment, day, week, month...

I have every belief that you will find the happiness that you so deserve, my dear. Perhaps I'm a silly optimist but I HAVE to believe that.

Look at me, I waited until 48 to find true love, even if it occasionally has a few pebbles in the path.

I DO love you and admire you and think you're a completely nifty person. And that's about all I can really say at the moment.

[greektoomey.livejournal.com]

I really don't think I could handle ... reading a handful of anonymous notes from people telling me they like me.

I still feel badly for my overly-negative reaction to the anonymous Valentinr notes I got two years ago. I'm sorry that you are in this state; please accept my sympathy and take whatever solace you may in knowing that you are not the only one.

[ladykerridwen.livejournal.com]

Tim and I will be working at the renaissance festival all day long....with enough mushy gusy sappiness to choke just about anybody. renewal of vows and all sorts of things

you could always celebrate happy arizona statehood day *nods* its true.

*huggles*

[nottygypsy.livejournal.com]

I am DOOM and I LOVE BOB!
I am going to take your screened V-day post idea and use it myself!
Also, you know the anonymous poster just feels (probably, rightly, but you never know) they are not worthy of your awesomeness).

Never done the V- meme thing myself, but the screened comment thing is a good idea, lets lots of us let others know we Like, admire, LOVE them! I declare Warm Fuzzy Day!

[flewellyn.livejournal.com]

*hug Amberbob*